Externalising the problem

The person is not the problem!

“The person is not the problem, the problem is the problem”. These words of Michael White have become well-known within the field of narrative therapy. In this chapter we will explore ways of externalizing problems and the possibilities this brings.

Introduction

by Tileah Drahm-Butler

Stories from Michael White about externalising

Transcript is available here

Shame Mat

Externalising can be used with groups in creative ways. Aunty Dolly Hankin and Aunty Kerry Major in Mount Isa, for example, have created the Shame Mat!

‘You can call me Sugar’

This is a story of ‘Sugar’ by Aunty Barbara Wingard. It’s a story about trying to find new ways of working, of trying different things and taking new steps.

Please find the article here: Introducing ‘Sugar’

(from the book Telling our stories in ways that make us stronger by Barbara Wingard and Jane Lester)

Talking about Grief

Aunty Barbara has also created a character of ‘Grief’ to assist people to grieve and honour.

Please find the article: Grief: Remember, reflect, reveal

(from the book Telling our stories in ways that make us stronger by Barbara Wingard and Jane Lester)

Lateral Violence

This is one of the most influential externalising conversations ‘scripts’. It was developed by Aunty Barbara to assist people to talk about Lateral Violence.

A conversation with Lateral Violence 

Also included are documents about the special skills that Elders and young people from Woorabinda community are using to respond to Lateral Violence.

(from the book Aboriginal narrative practice: Honouring storylines of pride, strength & creativity by Barbara Wingard, Carolynanha Johnson & Tileah Drahm-Butler)

Aunty Barbara:

Aunty Barb encourages you to give it a try!

This video is from a workshop with Aunty Barb, Carolyn Markey and Chris Dolman.

 

Reflections from

Tileah Drahm-Butler


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    Sandra Owen

    I totally agree with the problem being the problem opens the door for people to not feel trapped by others or self-blame therefore it allows them to feel distance from the issue.

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    Clare

    This module was so great, as while I have heard of externalizing problems before, this included so many rich, varied, and creative approaches to doing that! It has really inspired me to re-think all the ways I may be able to separate the problem from the person – and communicate this with clients – in ways the really resonate with them.

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    alexwalden@live.com.au

    I loved the examples about sugar and grief that Barbara Wingard provided, because I think that its more helpful to try to implement a strategy when you’ve had an example. Its great that there are opportunities to be creative and to adapt therapies to clients. Externalising thoughts from the client and being able to de-personalise things so that a frank and honest conversation can be had is really beneficial and may improve client engagement.

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    Chantelle M

    I really enjoyed this module. I have learned so much about how Aboriginal culture and how crucial it is to bring histories and injustices through individuals and communities. I especially loved learning about the shame mat. What a powerful and incredible symbolic resource. Aunty’s Barb’s articles on grief especially, really impacted my on a personal level. As a woman who has had a stillborn baby, it really hit home, how even now, you are still encouraged to just move forward, that there is still stigma to talk about your grief. It was quite reflective moment for me and my heart just broke to think of Aunty Barb’s experience and that of others, who never even got to say goodbye to their child. It also reminded me that I still carry my own grief, several years later and how much we do “shelve” our grief, because of how society says we should be. Thank you to the presenters for bringing forth just how important grief and shame are in one’s story and history and how incredibly important it is, for us to bring these into conversation.

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    Sameen

    The wisdom behind Shame Mat is mind blowing. I am completely awestruck at the the creativity and imagination of Aunty Dolly Hankin and Aunty Kerry Major in Mount Isa. I love the poem and have noted it down by Kerry Major. They both are true inspiration of strength and dignity. Aunty dolly s story touched my heart. Such a beautiful concept to make people understand that SHAME stops them for seeking help.

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    rosekneild@yahoo.com.au

    I found this module extremely useful. In working with young people and their families who are afflicted with eating disorders, extenalising the problem is always a useful tool. OFten by the time that families reach a treatment space, there has been considerable damage to relationships through conflict about eating/exercising that is driven by the problem (eating disorder) but is often perceived very personally. Externalising the problem and building an alliance between the young person and their family is the way to gain a strong enough momentum to beat the problem.
    I particularly found the section on lateral violence useful. I believe that I will find many opportunities to use these ideas therapeutically. I now realise that I have “missed the boat” so many times in the past by failing to address. I feel better prepared to move forward now. thank you so much for your teaching.

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    Sarah Sturton-Gill

    I loved this opportunity to learn about how to externalise a problem! The ability to be able to share this experience with clients makes me smile as I believe that it is only positive, non-judgemental and gentle. Michael’s ability to share his experiences with humour only reinforced the potential for positive outcomes for clients everywhere. Thank you for sharing this! Sarah

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    Ashleigh

    This module has reiterated the importance of knowing people and really understanding them rather than focusing on their label or the person as the problem. I also found the shame mat resource very inspiring as I work with students who have been affected heavily by trauma. They will withdraw within themselves and be filled with so much shame about their lives. This is a great way for students to be able to externalise their problems and increase their self-efficacy

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    Jazmyn

    I really enjoyed listening to these presentations around externalising problems. I particularly was interested in Aunty Dolly and Aunty Kerry’s ideas and creative approaches to externalising shame and the idea of everyone doing it together. I thought that Aunty Kerry’s poem was powerful and beautifully written.

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    Sophie

    I absolutely loved and connected with the Shame mat and Aunty Kerry Major’s 2010 Poem. It was an idea that was so simple, but really left an ever lasting impression. They harnessed one word to make a change. Leaving shame at the door and actually walk over the mat- helps the group and different identities to really open up and ‘shed their skin’. Something I am wanting to implement and practice in the classroom.

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    amy.sheridan

    This was a fascinating module;

    I especially enjoyed the personification of James’ ADHD. This reframing of the narrative not only illustrated the type of ADHD but it also empowered James as well as normalising his challenge by aligning him with another person who also had ADHD. By distancing James from the diagnosis and helping James to find a way to explain his condition, he was able to find the strengths he has from his own experience.

    I also found the Shame Mat tool as very inspiring as this brought the invisible nature of this type of feeling out into the open, so it can be seen for what it is. The group of women can empower each other through this process. Wonderful idea of Aunty Kerry and Aunty Dolly.

    The conversation with lateral violence that Aunty Barb has brought to us is genius, as it clearly enables perspective as well as fosters resilience. Asking it ‘what it likes to do’ and such is such a great way of unpacking the effects of this with clients and survivors.

    Very enriching module.

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    Jessica Rodaughan

    This module was incredibly inspiring and gave many practical ideas for working with clients. I really like the ideas around externalising “problems” and especially externalising shame, by creating a safe space where you can leave shame at the door. I hope to work with Aboriginal children and I think these externalising concepts will be incredibly helpful in reducing shame and increasing empowerment. Thank you for sharing this powerful knowledge.

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    Eugene

    This was a such an interesting topic, and I loved the inclusion of Aunty Barb’s essays on sugar, grief and lateral violence, as examples of how emotions can be externalized. I also loved seeing the similarities between this element of narrative therapy and elements of acceptance and commitment therapy (which encourages externalizing emotions by placing distance between yourself and your thoughts…with strategies such as “my brain is telling me XYZ” or “I’m hooked to the thought of XYZ”). I’m really curious as to how externalizing can be introduced though, without the client thinking that their concerns and anxieties are invalid, or not worth seeing as ‘real’.

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